One of my very good friends got married over the summer to a guy who she had been dating for about 5 years. When they first started dating, she was the "other woman." He was cheating on his girlfriend with her. This went on for about a year, until the girlfriend found out and dumped him. My friend and this guy, now her husband, had a very tumultuous relationship, to say the least. He cheated on her when they were dating and when they were living together. He continues to go out multiple times a week with his drinking buddies and sometimes doesn't bother coming home. He is living the college party lifestyle even though he is almost 40 years old. Some 21 year old girl has a crush on him and calls him and sends him text messages all the time, and he allows it. He is never without his phone, and is constantly sending and receiving texts from his friends. He even sleeps with his phone! All of his friends do drugs and he claims he does not, although he manages to go 2 days without sleeping sometimes. Right. Why she married him, I do not know. She is really unhappy, and she hoped he would change his ways when they tied the knot. Didn't happen. He is who he is, and now she feels stuck in a bad situation. To make matters worse, she's pregnant. I think she wanted to get pregnant so that he would change. Now she's realizing he's probably never going to change. She doesn't want to be a single mom, but she also doesn't want to raise a child with a father that is never there. Quite a dilemma. I don't know what I would do.
Another friend recently got married to a guy who is about 20 years older than her and has already been married 4 times, and has 5 children, one of whom is only 2 years younger than she is. He's also an alcoholic, a pothead, and a former crack addict who has been institutionalized. Twice. Oh, and he's already cheated on her multiple times. To reward him, she marries him? I don't get it.
By the way, both of these women are young, beautiful, intelligent (notwithstanding their choice in men), and have everything in the world going for them. Me? I'd rather be single FOREVER than be married to guys like these.
